Something I want women to be aware of when you are dating:

Men will use “I love you” and “I want to marry you” and flattery of any kind to get you to do things they know you would not normally do for or with them.

Every single man who is reading this right now knows I am 100% correct. It is what good men teach their daughters, when his wife isn’t a feminist who teaches him to be politically correct.

I was talking to my mechanic the other day and he said his sister is finally seeing the perverted and dangerous nature of men. He said it was because all the women told the good men to back off and let them live. Now they’re overrunning the world like weeds. What did you think was going to happen?

Men with perverse intentions will ask you to be their girlfriend with 0 intention of being faithful to you, because they understand that closeness and the idea of security make you feel comfortable enough to let your freak flag fly – so to speak. Especially if you tell him that’s the deal. Which most women do, because the label “girlfriend” has become so important to us. We make it everything, when really….it’s just a word to most men. Not all men. Some men have scrupals. But this post is mostly about the men who do not.

Any man who is not earnestly interested in pursuing a real, intimate, and concrete relationship with you is capable of lying. Manipulating. In all honesty, one of men’s greatest strengths is the art of detachment in order to get what they want out of life.

Even greater strengths include self-control, honor, nobility. Respect. There are absolutely great men in the world who honor the Goddess within all. and the God. But your desire to assume that every man is the same – either good or bad – your willful ignorance to the nature of humanity, it is stopping you from seeing reality for what it is.

Quick side note: every single comedian who throws a woman in his life, or women in general, under the bus for a cheap laugh is ruining his own future. Not the comedians who are being honest about the shadow nature of women – they are just being authentic.

The real backlash of dishonoring Goddess always takes a long time. She always gives men, and women, and kids more rope than we can hang ourselves with. That is the Beauty of Patience, Abundance, and Time :).

Real Men, men who know themselves as Gods in training in the Flesh, honor Goddess with their whole life. They honor God, too. They do this in their thoughts. They do it with their hearts, their emotions, their actions, and every sense they can muster. Their whole being is committed to honoring Goddess and God, together, as one.

As a woman, especially if you see yourself as a Goddess in training in the Flesh, your only job when it comes to dating – marriage, business, any kind of relationship – is to get so good at detecting where people are honoring you, others, and especially themselves, and where they are looking for a really cheap win. That’s your only job. It’s easy, once you get enough experience under your belt to actually be good at it. It’s also easy to think you’re good at it when you’re not. Humility is important here.

Cheap wins from men come through lying, manipulating, pulling the wool over one’s eyes to get you to say “yes” or “no”, depending on what they want.

Authentic victories require grit. They require commitment. They take time. They require humility – which means admitting when you were wrong and trying to come correct next time. They require Honor. What does Honor mean to you?

THIS is why it is vital for you to understand the reality of men. Men are amazing, especially when you understand the reality of them.

Men who are manipulating you will tell you what they believe you want to hear so they can get what they want. Which is fine, like I said before. It’s part of being able to build a world. What I want you to do is assume that every single man is doing that all of the time. Assume women are doing it too, actually. Do not assume people are always being honest with you. Anyone with even a modicum of life experience already does this anyway.

Maybe it sounds cynical to you though, to have someone point it out directly. It’s not.

If you are assuming a man is lying to you, you will actually listen to what he has to say. You will hunt for the lie and the truth like the detective you pretend to be.

If you assume a man is simply dumb, you shut your brain off and stop listening. That is where you miss your opportunity to catch what is actually going on.

Men who want something more than just a one night stand from you exist in abundance. Especially when you are a hot commodity.

If you assume a man is lying, and you are paying attention, then you actually get the chance to notice what he is genuinely communicating with you.

Now again, I have given you another tight rope to walk on.

Now I am debating with myself whether now is the right time to teach you how to listen to a man this way without accusing him of lying every single second. The basic foundation of this is that you must listen more than you speak. Women, get really quiet when you are waiting to catch a man in a lie. If you do that, I will tell you the rest of the formula another time.

Maybe you already know the way, you just have to apply it more often now.

Men who are using you for more than just a one time fling, but who have 0 intentions of making a real commitment to you in terms of marriage and building a life together, these men will go to any lengths possible to get you to do what they want you to do for them. They will try everything.

I need you to read that part again, please.

One more time, just for good measure.

Men are intelligent beings – stay with me here. Social media, your parents, your lived experiences teach you to disagree with me. I get that. I really do.

I am asking you to trust me on this one. You have made it this far. Don’t drop off the cliff just because I said something that is hard to accept. It is the reality that men are intellectual beings.

The first question is – if he doesn’t just want a cheap date, free sex, a date paid for by a woman, a one night fling, a friends with benefits situation (which is a girlfriend without any of the effort nor bare minimum commitment of having one), and he doesn’t want to put a ring on your finger, then what other motivations could a man have for pursuing you?

I will tell you. Have you ever heard of sex trafficking?

What do you think sex trafficking consists of?

I will tell you what it can also consist of.

Sex trafficking can mean:
* You never get kidnapped.
* You never get raped.
* You enter into multiple sexual relationships with various partners of your own free will, because one man who told you he loved you, andmaybe bought your compliance with nice gifts, convinced you this was his fetish.
* You film yourself having sex or in various sexual ways and send the videos to him directly so he can “watch you from a distance” (I will tell you what he really means in a second).
* You send nudes to a man who convinces you that they are just for him. Maybe you didn’t even need to be convinced.

None of the sex trafficking websites that I looked at helped me understand something fundamental to sex trafficking. Part of the game for men who are doing this is that they make you work against your own sanity.

You can tell something is off. But you can’t quite put your finger on it, until enough time goes by and you receive undeniable clarity.

All of this can happen when a man has convinced you that he loves you, whether you believe him or not. Whether you love him back or not.

This can happen with someone you just met.

It can happen with a man who was genuinely interested in dating you, but then he found his way into a world like this while you two were together. Suddenly, a whole world of possibilities just opened up to him and he realizes his plans with you were boring compared to what is possible.

This can happen with a man you are married to, and have been for a long time.

I desire to live in a world where every road for men who pursue this path leads straight to a maximum security prison. No bail. Lifetime sentence. The crime is so large against humanity – kids suffer the most because of men like this – that there is no turning back. It takes such a conscious effort to treat people this way that the conviction is in the action you already took. But hey, today, that is not quite the reality. Maybe tomorrow it will be.

Just look at what is happening in the UK. If you don’t know, Google “sex trafficking ring UK, government officials”. It is hard to get a full picture from the stories you read online. I am guessing that is intentional, since the same people and same crimes are being perpetrated here in the US and all over the world where people like this exist.

Another side note: 9/11 MAY have been an inside job. It could have been. That’s not impossible. That doesn’t mean it was officiated nor sanctioned by the US government. It means we were too lax in our security that we allowed foreigners to infiltrate our system. Those foreigners, who had sworn to protect the American people knowing they were lying under oath, allowed and empowered the attack to happen from inside government offices. Either way, debating whether 9/11 was domestic or international terrorism DOES NOT NEGATE the fact that it was a horrendous tragedy for the people who were impacted by it. People died suddenly, without cause, without warning. It ripped people out of their every day lives and every day flow into a whole new state of “I didn’t even think that was possible, what am I going to do without my husband, my wife, my fiance, my parent(s), my loved one(s), my friend(s)?” It was devastating.

That is why it is important for me to share what I understand. I want to give you another piece of the puzzle.

I don’t know every single scenario or way that men convince you to walk this path of devastation to trafficking yourself alongside them. And I am not saying that only men do this. Women are FAR MORE CAPABLE of getting men to sex traffick themselves than men are of getting women to do it. But men don’t really need convincing to put themselves out there sexually. Men will send you dick pics unsolicited. They don’t need to be coerced into making a porno. They do that for fun. They do it so they can watch their own videos again and again. That is WHY women are so valuable in the sex trafficking arena. Because porn without women is just a bunch of guys. There’s not that much appeal, and there’s no challenge in getting that done.

Since we women are so precious with our bodies, as we should be, because we are not men and women got really lucky in the body department, that makes the value of our nudes something that men know they can profit from.

That’s the part that really bothers me. The whole thing bothers me, but this part really stings.

The men who do this don’t even share a cut of the profits with you. He sells YOUR images and videos that YOU sent him, that you spent time and effort creating because you thought he wanted that, you thought it would bring you two closer to having a good life, AND THEN he doesn’t even give you a cut of the profits. Let that sink in. That’s the greatest travesty here.

There is no loss of innocence. They’re just photos. In today’s day and age it doesn’t even make sense to do this kind of work anymore. You can just pull an image of a hot woman from Instagram that’s probably already AI, take a video of yourself (the man) or a photo of a hot guy from Instagram that’s probably real, put that into an image generator or an AI video creation software and make your own porn. I know, I know, legal limits on AI content generation. Legal limits only stop law-abiding citizens. I’m not sure if you’ve noticed, but the majority of this post isn’t about people who are following the law as it is.

The lengths that men will go to to convince you that you should do what they want you to do matter. They should matter to you, anyway. They’re extreme, but they’re executed with subtlety. Men in these situations build you up and then make you feel withdraw their support. Emotional, financial. If you ever notice yourself feeling insecure in a relationship with a man, ask yourself what’s up. Stop yourself before you go into desperation mode. Therapy, healing can help you with that. Because when you feel desperate, what do you do in your relationship with a man? You try to close the gap. You reach out more, you seek more reassurance from him. You give more than you would have before in order to secure those feelings of closeness that came so easily in the beginning.

But all that time that you spend convinced that you are doing this to build a connection with him, he is actually profiting from your desperation. He is selling everything you send him to clients, business partners, investors.

You don’t know where your images go once they leave your device and you send them to someone else. Never assume that your nudes are safe once they leave your possession. Assume you have just sent them for the entire world to see. Treat them that way. I know Gen Z thinks nudes are nothing these days. It’s more intimate to have a conversation than send someone a fully naked photo. That is way different than how Millenials and Gen X grew up.

Maybe the man buys you nice gifts every once in a while. He spends an alarming amount of money on you at first. These acts are out of the ordinary when he is using them to buy your compliance. You will notice if that is the case. Eventually that generosity stops flowing and he starts to get really, really cheap.

In a Healthy Relationship, the flow operates the other way. As time goes on, the flow gets stronger, not more scarce. It depends on the man how generous he is on the first date. But you should always notice these things and appreciate them, not take them for granted or assume if he doesn’t do them that he’s a bad man. He might just not be that into you. He might just have his own honourable code to live by that doesn’t include flashing all of the money in his wallet in order to gain your respect.

In a relationship where the man is using you, he might be alarmingly generous at first. If he is, then eventually the purse strings get tighter, because he wants to cash in on the money he spent and squeeze every dime out of his initial investment. He also knows that if money is a hook for you (ChatGPT taught me this) then he will capitalize on that. He will try to use that hook to get you to do more and more for less and less as time goes on. He will build up a sense of debt by being extremely (and possibly alarmingly) generous up front.

The reality is though, that sense of debt has to come from within you. If you don’t feel it, it doesn’t exist. Girl Math! He gave you gifts! Any man worth his salt is not going to give you gifts freely and then expect to cash in on them later. Real Men understand that a gift is a gift, not a contract. That is why there are two separate words. A real man might be disappointed when he gives you a gift and you treat him like garbage for it. As he should.

But using gifts to build up a sense of “I did this for you, if you wat that to continue then you have to do that”…that line of thinking only works on someone who is desperate not to lose the benefits. If someone is using resources you value like money, fun trips, and nice things to get you to lower the standards you have for yourself, notice that.

When a man who is earnest in his intentions buys you things, and you like him, you should feel a sense of wanting to return the investment. Maybe not financially, or maybe financially depending on your situation. It should be reciprocal is all I mean. There should be a sense of authentic desire to recpirocate if you truly like someone.

That is where this all gets twisted. When it’s written out on paper, or digital text like this, an unhealthy relationship can sound exactly the same as an unhealthy one.

Man buys you gifts, you appreciate the gifts, you show appreciation by doing something you know he wants you to do in return. The cycle continues. The difference is this:

In a healthy relationship, the cycle of reciprocity leads to only good things. You feel better about yourself, you feel proud of the man you are with, the good harmony and energy you build between you grows. You create something unique in your union, and eventually that growth leads to wanting to start a family, build a home together, build a shared life. All good things come from this relationship, if it is truly good and you are both with a person that cares about you and is right for you to build this kind of relationship with. Even in business, every relationship can follow this same formula.

In an unhealthy relationship, where one party (man or woman) is KNOWINGLY USING the other one as a means to achieve SOME SORT of ends or gains to them – particularly financially – then that same formula results in terrible energy between the two parties. Just….God awful energy. And the good energy doesn’t grow, it turns into abuse after a while. There are probably signs of it early on. You know what abuse feels like. Trust yourself on this.

Back to speaking in terms of sex trafficking, here is one final thing to keep in mind. The entire ruse ONLY WORKS if you believe you are sending your photos and videos to someone who actually wants to watch them himself. That is why he does not pay you for them directly. Because sex trafficking another person is a crime. You cannot know it is happening. That man is a criminal and he deserves to be in maximum security prison for life. If he is doing it to you, he is doing it to other people. Likely young women, maybe even people who are not of age. God forbid true children are involved, ones who didn’t even learn about sex or ask about it yet. That is a possibility too. That is why it is important to be mindful of your options for reaching out to law enforcement.

The problem here, for the men who do this anyway, is that yes, men are intellectual, but they can also do really dumb things. And they happen to do them in the areas where women are actually really intellectual. The inequality between the sexes can be funny that way. Men really think we don’t notice certain things, even with every lecture they receive about women’s intuition. Men will never understand what it is like to be a woman. That comes up as part of your advantage here. Especially if the man you are dealing with dresses in drag, or calls himself a woman.

Women always notice when a man is manufacturing something. Men who do these kinds of things manufacture everything about the relationship. EVERYTHING. Maybe one day I will share more specific signs that might help you identify when this is happening to you. I don’t know if it has ever happened to me, in earnest. I just know it makes sense to keep all of these things in mind.

This is why knowing yourself is the greatest defense, and the ONLY REMEDY for building honest relationships with men. Honest relationships with men of every kind are extremely important. This is why, as a woman, I get really mad when I see women isolating their men from other women. It is one of the biggest ways that women abuse their husbands, boyfriends, brothers, friends. By separating them and making sure that SHE is the only woman in his life that he can have a meaningful connection with. Meaningful sexual connection with? Sure. But unless you’re seeking to be a cult leader with a harem of one, you can appreciate it when your man breathes around another woman. If you can’t, you married a creep, or you are one. Which one is it?

Maybe you will never believe me when I say this bothers me because I want to make the world a better place, not because I want to have a romantic or sexual relationship with every single men. That would be ridiculous. Who would even have the time for that?

I want the world to be a place where MEN and WOMEN and CHILDREN can all WALK and LIVE FREELY in the world. You are the one hung up on the wrong idea of freedom, not me. It’s fine if you don’t believe me.

But if you do want that too; if you believe that men and women and children deserve to be free from any insecurities that keep us glommed onto one another, then you should consider following me. I share helpful reasons and ways for all people to become smarter, especially than the perverted men who perpetrate stupid schemes like these.